A Motivation List…

Hey Lovelies, I hope you are all well and are blessed by the time this post reaches you.

So, I have recently been reading Naming My Voice‘s blog and she does this amazing thing where she writes lists of what she has done, what has happened or what she is going to do, simple, yes, but still very inspiring.

These days we often like to complicate things and we forget that there is much more substance in simplicity.

With that being said I will be sharing a list of things that will hopefully help you and myself stay motivated.

❤ Good vibes Only….

Make clear and concise goals, then remind yourself of them.

A mixture of short- and long-term goals is ideal, variety is important when it comes to these sort of things. Remember to keep your goals realistic, that way you will not be disheartened if you don’t reach them. That doesn’t mean you can’t push and challenge yourself though, if you don’t challenge yourself, then it’s not really a goal. Keep track of your goals and check your progress, this helps you stay motivated on a day to day basis.

Check your mic…

By this I mean make sure you are keeping up with their goals if you want to stay motivated. If you see that you are on track or even excelling every time you check your progress, you will be motivated and happy that you are getting there. If you see that you are lagging on your goals, get into first gear, get that clutch to bite, set your revs and get back on the road to continue your journey. ( i drive a manual car lol can you tell )

Reward yourself just because…

Honey! you’re putting in the much-needed effort, you deserve a reward, it’s not easy being you, sis !!. This could be as simple as a bowl of ice cream after a long hard week, watching your favorite series, having that extra slice of pizza, beating your face to the gawds – I am talking about makeup, don’t be alarmed lol. Whatever rewards will keep you going are the ones you should be giving yourself.

I Am Tired

Sometimes even the most determined people get overwhelmed. Don’t burn yourself out, take a much-needed break this might be just what you need. If it is a fitness goal, maybe take a three- or four-day rest instead of your normal one- or two-day rest. If it is at work, school, university, you are a superwoman /man please don’t try to do all your work in one sitting, stretch it out over the course of the day or week, if possible. Refresh yourself.

❤ Don’t be hard on yourself…

Everyone falls short sometimes. If you fail to meet your goals for the week, take it as a lesson. Try to complete your next target before time, so that you can use the saved time to complete the pending work. This way you stay right on schedule even if you have taken a hit. It’s not always about how hard you hit, but how well you can take a hard hit and keep moving on. Don’t dwell on failure; just accept it as a human occurrence, and continue working towards your goals.

❤ Pray Pray Pray Pray…

As you all know I am a Christian, my faith in God is my lifeline in all matters of my life. If you are of not any faith I encourage you to meditate, allow the little voice in your head to calm your spirit. we often mistake that voice for ourselves but that is the Holy spirit- believe it or not, he speaks for us when we cannot, he reassures and guides always.

I am sure there is a lot more you do to keep yourself motivated and I would love to read what you have to say in the comments.

Until next time,

Love C’awanzi XoXo

An ode to self-care.

I am you and you are me.
We both shape each other.

I am sorry for never realizing that you and I are complete just as we are.

I thought you were a half and thus, I have long searched for your other half to make you whole.

Throughout this arduous quest I have risked your happiness and your own completeness.

I took you for granted.

I have sat there and watched you collapse into hundreds of distressing pieces.

Sadly, I also kept on walking when I glimpsed you deep in the ditch full of mud and dirt. I thoroughly ignored the helping hand that you needed.

I thought I was doing you good. 

But I was only weakening you. You were never a half.

I am the one who turned you into a half.

But you are not one. You are complete just the way you are.

You don’t deserve neither to rest in the mud nor to fade into nothingness.

You didn’t fall in that mud—I’m the one who pushed you there. My ego whispered to me to push you so you could (so you would have to) find someone to pick you up.

And you didn’t want to fade into pieces. I am the one who gave you the green light to become a broken self.

But all is not your fault. It all comes down to what we think we deserve and me, I thought you don’t deserve much. I thought you were unworthy of love.

But things have changed.

Not the outer things. Life didn’t change much. Everything and everyone are almost still the same.

But, I changed, we changed.

I know who you are now. I know what you deserve.

You deserve love, happiness, inner-peace.

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Next time you see me about to push you into the dirt, keep distance. Sometimes, I am only an ego that is consistently seeking rescue.

But I know now that you don’t need to fall or to be picked up because your destiny isn’t to fall.

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Your destiny is to rise.

When you see yourself fading into pieces, remember that we are the creators of our own realities. Together, we can keep this beautiful self of ours intact and static.

It is all about choice.

And I chose not to fall, not to be broken.

Together, we will attract what’s beautiful and positive.

My dear self, we attract what we are.

When we are full of love and know our self-worth, I am most certain that we will not encounter any ditches full of mud.

And if we ever discerned one, we will choose not to behold it and not to fall. We won’t fall neither in the mud, nor for it.

We won’t allow ourselves to become weak. We will be one strong self that knows what it wants and what it deserves.

Forgive me.

You and I will make an astonishing team, believe me.

We are complete.

We are one.

A WOMAN

“The glory is in you…..”

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She is it…..
She is the best of both worlds.she is that independent,focused,ambitious queen.she is a boss.she can handle her own.
she is as Alpha as they come ,at the same time knows where to draw the line and be a woman.With a heart of gold ,she is affectionate ,passionate and selfless in understanding the definition of unconditional love.
She is it……she is a woman…I am her.

Over the past two years I have been on what feels like a never ending journey of self discovery and guess what, for as long as live it is my journey to take .Instead of staying in a state of constant stagnation i have chosen to embrace ,take charge ,experience and share it wholeheartedly…..

I have loved and I have lost,chapters have close and i have felt like i am in a dark corridor waiting for new doors to open.
in moments where i am most vulnerable,i find strength in being open to more than one outcome ,trusting that the process will always reap good by my Lords grace .

“provoke healing & journey of self-empowerment.”

Enjoy your journey ,take charge and do not apologise for it.
Com Amor,
Zee.
XoXo